Candice is a busy wife to Matt and mom of Noah (5) and Tyler (3 going on 21).  Candice also works part-time at our Rosebank Store of Christian Book Discounters.  In her spare time Candice writes for her own blog and is a travel consultant.

Dear Me,

Right now, I know you feel like you’re drowning. I know you feel like your world has crumbled, that when everyone finds out about the little baby you’re carrying, you’re going to shatter people’s dreams – dreams they had for you, and dreams they had for themselves which involved you. I can see how you feel like the baby you’re carrying, is actually carrying you. You feel like people will only see the baby and what your pregnancy says about you right now, and people will never see you as you. People don’t see you struggling for every smile and fighting for each step.

• I know you wish you were invisible but instead, you feel that you give failure a face.
• You feel like you are the poster child for pain.
• You feel like your name symbolises shame.

I see you are walking in the valley. You feel that God has left you – that any kind of good He could’ve done through your life is now shattered. You wonder about your worth, you question your character. No-one could possibly love you through this right? Including God? He abandoned you before you even knew yourself that you walking this road to motherhood. He knew you were, before you did and He gave up on you then, along with everyone else when they find out.

Stop…

You see that empty seat in the doctor’s waiting room? He’s sitting there.

You see the man sitting next to you, whose life has plunged into chaos just the same as yours has been? God chose him, for you, to walk with you right now (and forever) – Noah and you, He’s entrusted to him. Funny, his name is Matthew. Matthew means gift from God. Yes. He’s a gift from God for you. Dear Candice, Love Jesus.

Listen, me, six years from this day in the doctor’s room, you will tuck your little boy into bed, hold him close and realise these things:

1. Your baby boy will be the dream that, those close to you, never knew they had. He will heal relationships, he will bind up broken hearts and he will shine light into lives that are trapped in the darkness.
2. God never left you. In fact, when you look back to this time in your life, you will realise that it was this time right now, that He as closer to you than ever before.
3. God doesn’t make mistakes.  Ever.
4. From your greatest trial, came your greatest blessings. You will look back on this time and not wish it away, I promise you. These few months defined who you are, made you re-evaluate what you thought about God and carved your character in a way that you can’t even conceive right now.
5. The little boy’s arrival will teach you all about unconditional love. Your friends and family will show you more about God’s grace lived out, than you will have ever experienced before. Abandonment should not even cross your mind. The next few months, they will prove that to you.
6. The life you have now, six years later, is so much more fulfilling than the one you planned. I know you can’t see that now. Right now, you’re broken hearted about the life dreams you lost. I can assure you, this life you didn’t plan for – a life of jumping headfirst into motherhood and marriage so suddenly – that’s the life that actually makes your heart happy. You won’t cry for what you feel like you lost – because you actually didn’t lose anything of significance at all. You gained. You are where you weren’t planning to be but nonetheless, you are where you are meant to be.
7. The greatest lesson you will learn is that grace means that everything in your life, including the hurt, the disappointment, the pain you’re going through right now, the products of your mistakes, all serve a purpose instead of serving shame.

Everything you believe about yourself and about what God thinks of you is eradicated by what is there on the screen. Look over.  You see that little hand on the sonar screen? Can you hear that heartbeat?  Noah is created by God. His time is right now. God loves you enough and finds you worthy enough to be his mom.

This time is the right time…

You are worthy, in fact so worthy, God entrusted you with another life. He made you a mother.  If I could hug you right now, me six years ago, I would. I know you feel you don’t deserve it. I know you will have to learn to love yourself again, and it won’t come easily. In fact, you will have days where you feel like you’re back here again.

But at least in the future, you know where to run to. He’s waiting. He never left you. Nothing, ABSOLUTELY NOTHING, you do will ever change that.

Now if you weren’t where you are right now, on this day six years ago, where you are at a tipping point of grace without knowing it, you may have never had the chance to experience that for yourself.  God is about to become more real to you than you’ll ever know. He’s there. Just lean into Him – you’re carrying a baby, and He’ll carry you both.

Love,

Me

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By Tim Challies

Have you ever dreamed of being rich?  Have you ever wondered what it would be like to know that money poses no barrier between you and your dreams?  I think we all have at one time or another, haven’t we?  And most of us are convinced that we would use our wealth for good, to serve others rather than ourselves.  We imagine handing over the keys to a new home, or donating the full-ride scholarship to that person who could never afford it.  We dream of using extravagant wealth to do extravagant good.

We attach great significance to great deeds, don’t we?  And we attach little significance to little deeds.  And yet so few of us ever have the chance to do those exceptional things.  But what if we are measuring it all wrong?  John Stott says it so well as he comments on Galatians 6:2: “To love one another as Christ loved us may lead us not to some heroic, spectacular deed of self-sacrifice, but to the much more mundane and unspectacular ministry of burden-bearing.”

I think the reason we dream of helping others through extravagant wealth is that it feels like those extravagant deeds count for more.  So many of our good deeds are so small. They seem paltry.  Instead of handing over the keys to a brand new car, we hand over a slightly over-cooked casserole. Instead of funding an extreme makeover for that person’s home, we show up on Saturday morning to help apply a new coat of paint.  Instead of giving them a check to pay off their mortgage, we give them a few hours of our time to listen and counsel. Instead of funding a wonderful vacation, we take their children for a couple of hours so they can escape for a date.  It is hardly the stuff dreams are made of.

But I love what John Piper says: “Here is a vocation that will bring you more satisfaction than if you became a millionaire ten times over: Develop the extraordinary skill for detecting the burdens of others and devote yourself daily to making them lighter.” This is the extraordinary ministry for every ordinary Christian—bearing the burdens of others. What seems so mundane and so unspectacular, is actually bringing great glory and honor to God.  Read more…

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By Trevor Bradley

Some people use Red Bull, others coffee and still others stimulants for a lift …. albeit temporarily.  I want to use His word… Psalm 91…

David must have been facing some horrific things when he wrote this psalm.  He talks of “terror by night”, “arrows by day”, “pestilence that stalks” and “destruction that lays waste”.  Notwithstanding, this is what David says he was privileged to learn, and I trust that this word carries you through 2015 and becomes part of your life:

• GOD IS AND WILL BE YOUR REFUGE from and in the storms of life.  We can run to Him and find a safety house;
• MY FORTRESS:  When the battles rage, God will fight for us while we look on.  He will gain our victory (in fact he already has at the cross).
• HE WILL DELIVER:  He is Jehovah Sabaoth who delivers us in and out of our troubles. God will live up to His name.
• HE WILL COVER YOU:  God will be your surety and security.  And there is no better comfort to know, than that He has your back.
• HE WILL BE FAITHFUL to His word and that which He has covenanted to do for you in His word.

Why, you ask, will God bother with me and to do this for me?  Because of who He is… and because you matter and you are precious to Him as we are repeatedly told in scripture.

So may I encourage you to bask in the glory of God’s unimaginable love for you, His inexhaustible grace toward you and His ever available mercy outstretched toward you.

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What does God think about the 50 Shades of Grey Trilogy?  A Biblical Response…

You needed to have lived in the deep jungles of Borneo not to have heard of the 50 Shades of Grey Trilogy that has hit book stores over the past few years.  They have recently been followed up by the equally steamy film version of the series.  The theme song for the movie has topped the music charts for 6 weeks consecutively, and everyone you speak to has an opinions about the book or the movie.

Author & Blogger Tim Challies says:  “On one level, this is just another in a long line of films with a storyline that portrays sex and relationships in ways far removed from God’s design. But it is so much more than that. I believe that 50 Shades of Grey can serve as a kind of cultural barometer that alerts us to the colossal changes that have been occurring in recent years, and to the consequences they bring”

So what can the 50 Shades phenomenon teach us today?  Tim Challies shares 7 lessons that we can learn from 50 Shades of Grey.

Pulling Back the Shades is a response to the Shades of Grey phenomenon and is available at our stores or on-line.

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